That moment when you realize encouraging your boy to read the bible could end up revealing the birds & the bees.

Manger Scene

Our oldest (almost 9 years old), was reading the Bible this morning. We bought the second oldest name plated Bible and it reenergized both of them to read.

And the oldest said, “Jesus didn’t have any brothers.”

And I replied, “Well, Mary and Joseph did end up having children after Jesus was born. Jesus was just different…”

And what was going through my mind as I said that?

“Holy crap…how am I going to get out of this one?”

Leadership people talk about what you get done before breakfast determines the productivity of your day. That would set an all time high…or low…of productivity. I told my son about sex because he was reading the Bible…all before breakfast!

So I paused and said, “Because he was God and God put Jesus in Mary’s belly.”

Oldest, “Oh.” And went back to reading.

Crisis averted…for now.

Spiritual point? Not sure. Except that I think that I figured out why people don’t believe in the virgin birth of Jesus.

They don’t want to explain sex to their kids using Jesus as the example.

Finding Joy In Our Kids

Shane —  August 3, 2015 — Leave a comment

We went to Silver Dollar City today.

My wife, myself and all our four boys. And today, just like any other day, someone says, “Those are all 4 boys? God bless you.”

Today was the last real day we could get away this summer and take advantage of the season tickets that my parents gave us for last Christmas. School and soccer start next week! Time is running short soon!

But we had a good day. Anytime we all come home and no blow ups happen is a good day.

This leads me to…I’m trying to find more joy in my boys.

I’m someone who has too much obsession with perfection. If things aren’t just right, it gets me frustrated.

Paul saw Timothy as a son. And in 2 Timothy 1:4 Paul tells Timothy, “I will be filled with joy when we are together again.”

Paul, the spiritual father, found joy in the presence of the son, Timothy.

Sometimes parents, it is hard to find joy. Cause it all gets frustrating.

But maybe the frustrating times will start to melt away if we find more joy in our kids.

This doesn’t mean a discipline free home. When one person’s actions take away the joy of all, the joy of all must be paramount to the joy of one.

Find joy. Laugh. Tickle. Wrestle. Play. Whatever it takes.

And you’ll find a kid who finds joy in you.

My youngest three boys were playing in the front yard while I mowed.

I noticed the youngest (2.5 years old), trying to get on a 2-wheeled bike. I wasn’t too worried about it because there was no way he was getting on there. Maybe he’d fall over, but nothing major would happen.

Until I saw my second oldest (7 years old) picking up the youngest to sit him on the bike. The third boy was also helping. Helping keep the bike upright while the youngest was put on the bike.

They all were just fine with what was transpiring. But the father didn’t want it to happen.

That’s when I stepped in and made sure no one got hurt.

The boys were just trying to help give their younger brother a great experience riding a bike. I know that wasn’t going to end with a great experience.

We have a desire to help others with life. But one thing that we must be doing to help them the most is to tie ourselves to the Father.

At CrossPoint, we call this “Fill my cup. Empty my cup.” A saying borrowed from a guy by the name of Andy Stanley.

We must make sure that we’re tapping into the Father while helping others. There will never be anything to empty if there is nothing being poured into our cup. And we need to make sure what we are helping others with is actually what the Father wants.

Ever hear…or tell…someone, “God will never give you more than you can handle.” Well, that’s not in the bible. In fact, God’s word is chalk full of examples where people are in way over their head. And that’s what God wants. He does that so we will have full dependence upon him.

We’ll never help perfectly; so we need to jump in the game of helping people. But maybe we can help better than a 7 year old helping a 2.5 year old onto a bike by listening to the Father first.

Doing What You Do Well

Shane —  November 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

The people said Jesus did all things well.


Is this your goal? To do what you do so well other people notice?

Now, nothing will ever be perfect. There is always something to work on.

But is the tapestry that other people look at done well?

Like cross stitching, the back is a mess. But the front is art.

What people don’t see might be a mess.
What people do see must be done well.

How can you work on making what you do better today?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Mark 7:31-37.

Hope Goes Viral

Shane —  November 12, 2014 — Leave a comment

“Going viral” is a touchy thing.


If you want your organization to go viral because it is good for business, then you may be going viral for the wrong thing.

Jesus went viral. Often. The more he came to an area, the less he could move around freely. People came up to him for teaching, healing and just to get a touch.


Not because Jesus tried to go viral. In fact, he tried to get people to stop talking.
Not because it was good for business. In fact, it’s what got him killed.

Jesus went viral because he offered hope. Hope that lives could be restored.

God has given you something to restore with your organization.

Give hope to people with what God has given you.
Bring restoration to lives because you are in business…

Not because it is good for business.

Rather give hope just because it is good to give hope.

Then deliver on the hope you give.

How does your organization give hope through restoration?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Mark 6:53-56.

It is so easy to feel like you’ve lost control.

And when we’ve lost control, it is easy to lose control.


The disciples found themselves having lost complete control of a situation twice. They were professional fishermen, but the storm they faced overwhelmed them.

But both times, Jesus restored control.

And he did it two different ways.

For Peter, he restored control by allowing his feet to be solid, even though the water he was walking on wasn’t.

For the rest, Jesus restored control by bringing peace to the storm.

Leadership feels like walking on water at times. People want you to do it…but you don’t quite know how.

When we’ve lost all control, we have two options…

1. Try and gain control back.
2. Focus on the One who has all control.

We cannot be in complete control (read: power). So, let’s not lose control (read: composure).

Instead, focus on Jesus. He might not take the storm away.

But he sure knows where to put his feet when walking on water.

How can you focus on Jesus today so he can restore control?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from John 6:16-21.

Rewarding Persistence

Shane —  November 7, 2014 — Leave a comment

Persistence must be rewarded.


Jesus rewarded these blind men for being persistent.


Because persistence reveals faith.

Is there someone in your organization who just won’t stop?

Maybe their a tad annoying. Like a couple of blind guys following you shouting.

Reward their faith despite the annoyance. Their faith that they can do the job. Their faith that your organization is what they need to be a part of.

Because someone that is persistent will make a difference, if you allow them.

How can you reward someone’s persistence today?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Matthew 9:27-34.

You Can Be a Laughable Hope

Shane —  November 6, 2014 — Leave a comment

Would you want your organization to give away laughable hope?


Jesus gave away laughable hope.

“The girl is just sleeping.”

In the middle of all the mourning, people outright laughed at Jesus.

Hope is the certainty the future will be better than the past or present.

And whatever your organization sells, it can sell hope. Hope that you will make their future certainly better.

Not in a slimy, break down trust sort of way.
But in a way that you honestly desire and work for the better future of others.

In a way also, that people just can’t believe it. It’s so unbelievable that they chuckle at the very thought.

How can you give a laughable hope today?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Luke 8:40-42; 49-56.

Approachable By All

Shane —  November 5, 2014 — Leave a comment

Any level of faith works for Jesus.


This woman who came to him didn’t have a lot of faith. But she had just enough to go to Jesus.

No doctor had helped her. And this was made evident by how she approached Jesus.

She didn’t want to bother him with a request.
She didn’t want to be put to another humiliation if this didn’t work.

How do you treat people with little faith?

How we treat people who are shy or even ashamed to approach us matters. It matters to that one. It matters to everyone watching.

It pays huge dividends to welcome with open arms those who are reserved and ashamed to approach you.

Because when they do approach you, it shows they have faith you can do something.

How can you make yourself approachable by all today?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Luke 8:43-48.

Giving a Lifeline

Shane —  October 31, 2014 — Leave a comment

Your organization gives a lifeline to people.


Jesus gave a woman a lifeline.

Every man in her life was dead.

Her husband.
Her only son.

And because of every man in her life was dead, she had no way of making money.

Jesus, seeing this, had compassion on her. And raised her son from the casket.

Your organization gives people a lifeline. Maybe not life and death lifelines, but a lifeline nonetheless.

And it starts with compassion. An organization full of people who are full of compassion towards people who need the lifeline you offer will do more than sell stuff.

An organization like this will make a difference.

How can you lead with compassion towards people who need the lifeline you offer?

This series is about leadership lessons we can apply to our everyday lives from the stories of Jesus’ miracles. Today’s reading is from Luke 7:11-17.